Monday, March 25, 2013
Empathetic empathy
Empathy is an ability, a skill. Sympathy is an emotion. That is the difference between the two. Everyone knows what sympathy is; your girlfriend sees a dead cat by the side of the road and she cries, because a poor little kitty is dead. Those with empathy might think of the fear the cat experienced while a vehicle was bearing down upon it, or the pain of the little girl who wonders where her kitty went.
Empathy is an ability, but it is also a curse. It makes you experience emotions -- usually negative ones -- when you, personally, have no reason to feel badly.
It seems that empathy is my life skill. I have this uncanny ability to put myself into others' shoes, even though I haven't experienced much, myself. Sometimes, it's helpful -- I tend to be a pretty good judge of character, and I've been told I give very reasonable advice. But I always smile when work clients tell me I have no idea what they're going through, because I have never experienced a severe drug addiction. They're right, but also wrong. That smile is a rueful one.
Sometimes, I wish I wasn't at all empathetic, that I could be like everyone else and have no consideration for other people's feelings. I wish I could just flip that switch and focus on myself. It's so much easier that way. Those kind of people have no idea how lucky they are.
Instead I've consigned myself to work in human services forever. I'll work long, extremely draining hours making a sub-par salary, in an attempt to improve lives because I feel for them.
Empathy is a shit skill to have.
/selfpity
Friday, March 22, 2013
Norman, my Norman.
This man fascinates
me. I mean, utterly, completely
intrigues me. And, believe it or not, it wasn't his good looks that caught my attention first. It was his acting.
But then, as the season went on, and Merle disappeared,
Daryl’s character began to seem different.
It seemed like there might be a spark of humanity under the cruel façade
Reedus portrayed so well. It became
clear that he was starting to care for some of the others in the group, however
unwilling, and it was obvious that his distance was only a defense mechanism
to protect himself. He began putting
effort into helping everyone, contributing and being useful. As the first season slipped into the second, he
began to seem more like a member of the group, rather than just a guy following
the people with the supplies.
There was a defining moment for me, when my entire view of
Daryl transformed. **If you haven’t watched through season 2 yet, I’m about to reveal a
spoiler.** After the group discovers
Sofia in the barn, Daryl regresses completely, maybe even overcompensating and
becoming even more angry and withdrawn than he had previously. After all the effort he put into searching
for the girl, his already ragged and wounded ego couldn't handle the blow of
losing her. He put himself out there,
and he got burned, just like he must have been, many times through his life. That pain,
and his harsh, abrupt reaction, left me in awe of the man behind the
character. Obviously, the writers have
the main hand in producing the script, and the director sets up the scenes
perfectly, but it was the phenomenal portrayal of Daryl’s reaction that has me
so intrigued with Mr. Reedus.
Norman put an entire back story to Daryl’s character without
ever putting it into words. Such a feat
is already incredibly impressive, but the fact that he was given a sort of free
reign with the character, and he chose to take it in that direction -- and was ridiculously successful! -- blows my
mind.
I've watched countless interviews, panels, and Q&A
videos, and read dozens of articles and written interviews, and I only become
more and more impressed. I wish I could
sit down with him and pick his brain. I
want to know his history, and the experiences that make him so humble and
nice. I want to know what made him who
he is today, because it seems clear to me that so much of him is in Daryl’s
character.
Like I said, fascinating! And yes, I did use this as an excuse to post copious amounts of photos :) Here's one more for the road! Oh, captain, my captain!
Thursday, March 21, 2013
You don't have to be a Reedus fan...
To find this video absolutely hilarious. Watch it! Trust me!
See? Told ya!
See? Told ya!
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